Buddhism and romantic relationships

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Buddhism encourages nonattachment in romantic relationships. [1] In order to follow the path of enlightenment, Buddhism teaches people to discard all things in life that can cause pain, so one must detach from the idea of a perfect person and instead accept a partner unconditionally. [2] According to Buddhism, unconditional acceptance is how one achieves personal fulfillment in a romantic relationship.

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Buddhism states that to avoid divorce, older men should not have younger wives and older women should not have younger husbands. This originates from a belief that the age difference would make the couple incompatible and lead to divorce. [3]

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