Control freak

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Control freak is a colloquialism for a person who feels a psychological need to constantly be in charge of things and people around them. A control freak can become distressed when they feel things are going out of control. [1] The feel of the need to control is often attributed to the underlying fear of losing control over their lives. [2]

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This expression was introduced around the 1960s and it is not a clinical one. [3]

Characteristics

Control freaks tend to have a psychological need to be in charge of things and people – even circumstances that cannot be controlled. The need for control, in extreme cases, stems from deeper psychological issues such as obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), anxiety disorders, or personality disorders. [1]

Control freaks are often insecure and perfectionists. [4] Additionally, they may even manipulate or pressure others to change to avoid having to change themselves. They may have had an overbearing mother or father. [5] Furthermore, control freaks sometimes have similarities to codependents, in the sense that the latter's fear of abandonment leads to attempts to control those they are dependent on. [6]

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References

  1. 1 2 "How to Deal with a Control Freak". Health Essentials. Cleveland Clinic. 5 May 2020. Retrieved 5 May 2020.
  2. 5 Signs That You Are Dealing With a Control Freak
  3. Kristin Glaser, in The Radical Therapist (Penguin 1974) p. 246
  4. Michelle N. Lafrance, Women and Depression (2009) p. 89
  5. Robin Skynner/John Cleese, Families and how to survive them (London 1994) p. 208
  6. David Stafford & Liz Hodgkinson, Codependency (London 1995) p. 131
  7. Walter Isaacson, Steve Jobs (2011) p. 564 and p. 513
  8. Quoted in Isaacson, p. 497
  9. Queen Victoria's Children BBC2 January 2013