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Fuck, Marry, Kill, also known as Kiss, Marry, Kill, as Bang, Marry, Kill, or as Bang, Smash, Dash, or with other synonyms or arrangements of the terms, is a social forced choice question and answer game. As one source describes it, "[w]e have heard of the game "Kiss, Marry, Kill" in which people fantasize about which of the three choices they would exercise on someone". [1] In the game, one person poses three names of people known to the other, typically either names of people known in their personal lives, or names of celebrities. [2] The other person then has to decide which of the three they would have sexual intercourse with (or kiss), which one they would marry, and which one they would kill. [2]

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Description and history

A 2009 Wonkette piece described it as "the popular children's schoolyard game of 'Fuck, Marry, Kill'", and suggested that the "rules" of the game included an understanding that the player cannot have sex with the person they marry, and that the person they do choose to have sex with, they can only have sex with one time. [3] Slate , on the other hand, posted a lengthy staff debate in 2020 on the rules of the game, including the question of whether the marriage must be celibate, or whether it could include sex, but of a lesser quality than that of the sex-only option. [4] The Slate staff also debated whether the sex option implied a single encounter, and never seeing the person again after the encounter. [4] The British BBC Three reality television show, Snog Marry Avoid? has been observed to present a variation on the theme, with a piece in Feminist Review noting the "explicitly sexualized" element of having men make this judgment from images of "everyday" women who are complete strangers to them. [2]

In a 2007 episode of the sitcom 30 Rock titled "Up All Night" (in which the game is called "marry, boff, kill"), characters in the show playing the game with reference to one another discover feelings which shape their relationships. [5] A 2008 article in The Onion captioned a photograph in a parody piece with "Sen. Clinton scans the Senate floor, passing the time with a quick game of 'Fuck, Marry, Kill'". [6] A 2012 single by Nikki Williams was named "Kill, Fuck, Marry". The Chicago Tribune celebrated the 2014 Netflix release of the TV series Friends with a "Bang, Marry, Kill: 'Friends' edition", offering rationales for applying different combinations of the options to the respective trios of male and female main characters. [7] The 2017 film Spider-Man: Homecoming has a scene in which two girls in Peter Parker's high school play the game with reference to Thor, Iron Man, and the Hulk. [8] The reboot Animaniacs on Hulu has a scene where Putin and Kim Jong-un are playing the game with actors by the name of Chris.[ citation needed ] In the second last episode of season 2 of the satirical dramedy Succession , the game is played by key characters while being held as hostages. [9]

Criticism

The game has been subject to criticism, variously described as "tasteless" and "juvenile". In April 2018, singer J Balvin received criticism for his responses when induced to play the game during an interview, when he suggested in response to the question that singer Rihanna would not be a good person to marry. [10] [11] A 2020 hostile work environment lawsuit against $9 billion hedge fund Advent Capital alleged among other things that male employees of the company "played the juvenile game 'f--k, marry, kill.'" [12]

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  3. ↑ Weiner, Juli (April 14, 2009). "Fuck, Marry, Kill: "First Daughter, First Love" Edition!". Wonkette.
  4. 1 2 Slate staff (April 21, 2020). "Have You Been Playing "F, Marry, Kill" Wrong Your Entire Life?". Slate.
  5. ↑ Adams, Erik (October 7, 2014). "30 Rock: 'Black Tie' / 'Up All Night'". TV/AV.
  6. ↑ "'Boring,' Hillary Clinton Shouts From Senate Seat". The Onion. September 24, 2008. Archived from the original on October 15, 2008.
  7. ↑ "They'll be there for you: Who will we choose in Bang, Marry, Kill: 'Friends' edition?", Chicago Tribune (December 18, 2014, p. 30.
  8. ↑ Commandeur, Jordan (July 11, 2017). "The 15 Best Spider-Man: Homecoming Easter Eggs". CBR.com.
  9. ↑ "'Succession' and the F-word, by the Numbers". The Ringer.
  10. ↑ Darville, Jordan (April 9, 2018). "Some fans are upset over J Balvin's 'Fuck, Marry, Kill' answer about Rihanna". The Fader.
  11. ↑ Thompson, Desire (April 10, 2018). "J. Balvin Issues Apology For Saying "Rihanna Is A Woman You Don't Marry"". Vibe .
  12. ↑ Grant, Jason (May 19, 2020). "Former Associate Accuses $8.5B Wall Street Hedge Fund of 'Rating Women,' Frequent Slurs". New York Law Journal . Retrieved February 21, 2024.
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