Grey rock method

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The grey rock method, colloquially called gray rocking, is a communication pattern to deliberately act unresponsive and uninterested to encourage disengagement with difficult people. [1] [2] By adopting the dull qualities of a gray rock, the technique of gray rocking negates the emotional reaction people try to elicit. [3]

The term was coined in 2012 by an American mental-health blogger named Skylar. [4]

No clinical studies have been conducted on the effectiveness of the Grey rock method, but anecdotal evidence has suggested that it is effective on individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and in situations of emotional abuse. [5]

References

  1. "How to 'Gray Rock' Conversations With Difficult People". New York Times. May 31, 2024. Retrieved 8 September 2025.
  2. "'Gray rocking' is a way to deal with difficult people. Here's how it works". The Washington Post. 31 August 2025. Retrieved 8 September 2025.
  3. Ungvarsky, Janine (2023). "Grey rock method (grey rocking) | Research Starters | EBSCO Research". EBSCO. Retrieved 8 September 2025.
  4. "'Grey Rocking': The Life-Improving Power of Being Really, Really Boring". Esquire. 27 December 2021. Retrieved 8 September 2025.
  5. Villines , Z. (2025, April 10). Grey rock method: What it is and how to use it effectively. Medical News Today. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock