John Smid

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John J. Smid
NationalityAmerican
OccupationEx-Minister
Known for Love In Action
SpouseLarry McQueen

John J. Smid is the former director of the Memphis, Tennessee ex-gay ministry Love in Action, a group that claims to convert lesbians and gay men to heterosexuality. [1]

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Career

During his time directing Love in Action, Smid faced controversy over the organization's treatment of gay teens in their youth program "Refuge". [2] Smid subsequently resigned his position in 2008, [3] and in 2010 apologized for any harm he had caused, noting that his teen program "further wounded teens that were already in a very delicate place in life". [4]

In 2011, three years after leaving Love In Action and stepping down from its leadership, Smid announced he was still homosexual and stated he had "never met a man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual." [5]

In 2012, Smid wrote and self-published the memoir Ex'd Out: How I Fired the Shame Committee. [6]

In the 2018 film Boy Erased , based on the book of the same name, the character Victor Sykes, portrayed by Joel Edgerton, is based on Smid.

A November 2018 Radiolab podcast titled "UnErased: Smid" [7] features Smid's life story.

Personal life

Before claiming he had changed from homosexuality to heterosexuality, Smid lived for years married to a woman and fathering children. It was during this marriage that he said he was gay, divorcing his first wife in 2008. Four years following his divorce, Smid became a Christian and sought conversion from homosexuality to heterosexuality. [2] He married a second time, but by 2011 said, “I would consider myself homosexual and yet in a marriage with a woman.” [8] By November 2014, Smid had divorced his second wife and married Larry McQueen. The couple live in Texas. [9]

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