Male romantic friendship

Last updated January 16, 2024

Male Romantic Friendship, in the nineteenth century, can be understood as intimate relations between young men akin to brotherhood. These relations were based on expressiveness and trust. The parts involved shared their insecurities, doubts, and hopes. These friendships provided the feeling of security and affection that men needed after leaving boyhood.^[1]

The intimate aspect of these friendships is the result of the way that men interacted with each other. They used overly affectionate language in their diaries and letters when talking about their friends,^[1] and they described physical contact, like kisses.^[2] These aspects of intimate friendships lead some current readers to believe that these friendships had some sexual component; but, it is simply a negative after-effect of modern western socio-culture influence on these people which led them to have such baseless notions. This was simply how male friendships were in the past,and still is except for some parts in West.

Development

These intimacy bonds were usually formed in the transition period between boyhood and manhood^[2] During this period, middle-class men left their homes to go to colleges and the military. Away from their families and friends, young men had to form a deeper affinity with colleagues to help them navigate this new phase of their lives.^[1] Young men search for friends who had similar interests and who could offer emotional support when needed. They freely declared their affection to one another, especially by using physical contact.^[1] Even though these friendships started at colleges, some of them continue after graduation.^[1]

Comparison of female and male romantic friendships

Authors claim that this kind of friendship is similar to the same-sex friendship between women described in The Female World of Love and Ritual. For instance, Rotundo argues that male romantic friendship, like same-sex female friendship, was socially accepted, compatible with heterosexual marriage,^[1] and valued.^[3] On the other hand, men's and women's friendships differ in duration. Smith-Rosenberg says that female romantic friendships were generally formed in adolescence and continue during the rest of their life.^[4] Nevertheless, male romantic friendship usually lasted only during youthhood.^[2]

Sexual activity

The intense manner that young men addressed each other in their letters makes some current readers question if sexual activity was present in Romantic Friendships. In these correspondences, men talked about embracing each other, sleeping together, and the happiness generated by receiving a letter from their friends.^[1] These passages may suggest that these relations were more than friendships to some modern readers. However,thats simply how affectionate male friendships were which the current western readers are not able to perceive or comprehend as such due to modern socio-cultural influences on their Mindset. Nevertheless,the close relations between men of that era sure is a lesson for the men nowadays to go by to be more affectionate to their fellowmen.

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References

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Godbeer, Richard (2009). The Overflowing of Friendship. doi:10.1353/book.3357. ISBN 9780801895364.
1 2 3 Rotundo, E. Anthony. (1993). American manhood : transformations in masculinity from the Revolution to the modern era. New York: BasicBooks. ISBN 0-465-01409-7. OCLC 26399290.
↑ Jusdanis, Gregory (2014). A Tremendous Thing: Friendship from the "Iliad" to the Internet (1 ed.). Cornell University Press. ISBN 978-0-8014-5284-0. JSTOR 10.7591/j.ctt1287cg1.
↑ Smith-Rosenberg, Carroll (1975). "The Female World of Love and Ritual: Relations between Women in Nineteenth-Century America". Signs. 1 (1): 1–29. doi:10.1086/493203. ISSN 0097-9740. JSTOR 3172964. S2CID 143774652.

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[:1-1] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Godbeer, Richard (2009). The Overflowing of Friendship. doi:10.1353/book.3357. ISBN 9780801895364.

[:2-2] 1 2 3 Rotundo, E. Anthony. (1993). American manhood : transformations in masculinity from the Revolution to the modern era. New York: BasicBooks. ISBN 0-465-01409-7. OCLC 26399290.

[3] Jusdanis, Gregory (2014). A Tremendous Thing: Friendship from the "Iliad" to the Internet (1 ed.). Cornell University Press. ISBN 978-0-8014-5284-0. JSTOR 10.7591/j.ctt1287cg1.

[4] Smith-Rosenberg, Carroll (1975). "The Female World of Love and Ritual: Relations between Women in Nineteenth-Century America". Signs. 1 (1): 1–29. doi:10.1086/493203. ISSN 0097-9740. JSTOR 3172964. S2CID 143774652.

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