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Ross Allen Rosenberg | |
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Born | Chicago, Illinois, U.S. | March 16, 1961
Nationality | American |
Alma mater | Towson State University Boston University |
Occupation(s) | Psychotherapist, author, educator |
Years active | 1988–present |
Website | www |
Ross Allen Rosenberg (born March 16, 1961) is an American psychotherapist, author, and educator. He introduced the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), a framework he developed to interpret codependency in the context of attachment trauma. [1] [2] He is the founder of the Self-Love Recovery Institute.
Rosenberg was born in Chicago, Illinois, and raised in Mount Prospect. [3] In 1982, he received inpatient treatment at Riveredge Hospital for substance abuse. During this period, he wrote a poem titled Loneliness, which he later described as influential in shaping his understanding of emotional trauma and interpersonal dysfunction. [4] [5]
He served in the U.S. Army’s Signal Intelligence branch as a Morse code interceptor and was honorably discharged in 1985 with the rank of sergeant (E-5). He earned a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Towson State University, graduating magna cum laude , and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from Boston University in 1988. [6] His professional credentials have included Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor (CADC), and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). [7]
Rosenberg began his clinical practice in 1988 with Youth and Shelter Services in Iowa. From 1995 to 2003, Rosenberg advanced from a supervisor at FamilyCare of Illinois to Vice President of Operations at Alternative Behavior Centers, overseeing mental health programs. [8] He later worked as a psychotherapist at Arbor Counseling Center in Illinois until 2010.
In 2010, he founded Clinical Care Consultants, a counseling practice in Arlington Heights and Inverness, Illinois. [6] [9] [7] [10] In 2013, he left PESI to establish Advanced Clinical Trainers (later renamed the Self-Love Recovery Institute), a company providing professional training, public speaking, and educational services. [11] [8] [10]
Rosenberg has served as an expert witness in legal proceedings involving narcissistic abuse, codependency, and trauma-related disorders. [6] [12] [13] [7] From 2017 to 2020, he was a Certified Sex Addiction Treatment (CSAT) provider. [6] [8] [3] He has presented at professional conferences such as the Illinois Counseling Association (2012) and the Summit for Clinical Excellence (2018). [14] [10] [15] [16]
Rosenberg has developed a series of therapeutic models and psychological frameworks that reinterpret codependency through the lens of early attachment trauma, emotional neglect, and self-worth. [17]
Rosenberg introduced the term Self-Love Deficit Disorder as an alternative to the concept of codependency. He describes SLDD as a condition characterized by a chronic lack of self-love, often rooted in attachment trauma during childhood. According to Rosenberg, this leads to persistent relational dysfunction, including a pattern of forming relationships with narcissistic partners. [18] [19] [20]
An overarching theory that proposes individuals are unconsciously drawn to partners with opposite emotional traits, much like the way opposite poles of a magnet attract each other. Codependents, who prioritize others, are viewed as "negatively charged," while narcissists, who focus on themselves, are "positively charged." Their opposing traits create a powerful but dysfunctional connection that tends to repeat across relationships. The theory attributes this attraction to early attachment wounds and unresolved childhood needs. [19] [5] [20]
To illustrate this relationship pattern, Rosenberg uses a tango metaphor in which the narcissist leads the dance with control and dominance, while the codependent follows, accommodating to their partner’s emotional demands. The metaphor highlights the complementary dysfunctions that sustain the relationship dynamic. [18] [19] [20]
In The Codependency Revolution (2024), Rosenberg presents a typology of codependent behaviors. [18] The subtypes he identifies include:
Rosenberg’s Self-Love Deficit Disorder/SLDD (codependency) Pyramid, also referred to as a developmental model of 'renamed codependency,' outlines the origins and progression of SLDD across five hierarchical levels: [21] [22] [18] [19] [20]
He argues that these symptoms are expressions of underlying trauma, rather than the disorder itself.
Rosenberg’s Relationship Compatibility Theory uses numerical values to represent the distribution of qualities such as love, respect, care, trust, and protection (LRCTP) in relationships. When these values are inversely matched—for example, a (-5) codependent with a (+5) narcissist—their sum equals zero, creating what Rosenberg refers to as a zero-sum relationship. He contends that such relationships are often stable but dysfunctional due to their complementary imbalances. [18] [19] [20]
The Self-Love Recovery Treatment Model is Rosenberg’s structured approach for addressing SLDD. It includes ten stages: [18] [19] [20]
The Healing the Inner Trauma Child (HITCH) Method is a therapeutic approach developed by Ross Rosenberg as part of his Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program. It is designed to access and integrate childhood attachment trauma underlying Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), and to treat conditions such as PTSD, C-PTSD, attachment trauma, and dissociative disorders. [25] [26]
Rosenberg’s Observe–Don’t–Absorb technique encourages individuals to maintain emotional boundaries when interacting with narcissistic personalities. The strategy involves consciously observing emotional interactions without internalizing them.
Rosenberg has authored several books and papers on emotional trauma, codependency, and narcissism. [21] His book The Human Magnet Syndrome, explores patterns of attraction between codependent individuals with dependent and narcissistic traits. [19] [5] [20] A revised edition was released in 2017. As of 2025, over 200,000 copies have been sold. [9] [13] [22] [27]
He has contributed to publications including Psych Central , [28] The Huffington Post , [29] [5] [30] The Good Men Project , [1] [31] and Counseling Today. [32]
Rosenberg launched a YouTube channel in 2011 focusing on narcissistic abuse and recovery. [36] As of 2025, the channel had over 330,000 subscribers and 35 million views. [9] [13] [30] [37] He also hosts The Self-Love Recovery Podcast, which began in 2022 and had produced over 80 episodes by 2025. [9] [22]
His media appearances include The Jenny McCarthy Show , Fox News, WGN News, and the ABC documentary Swiped. [13]