The Gift of Fear

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The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
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Author Gavin de Becker
CountryUnited States
LanguageEnglish
Publication date
1997
Media typePrint and Kindle
OCLC 36143575

The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence is a nonfiction self-help book (Dell Publishing 1997, republished with new epilogue 1998) written by Gavin de Becker. The book argues that every individual should learn to trust the inherent "gift" of their gut instinct.

Contents

The Gift of Fear spent four months on The New York Times Bestseller List, was a #1 national bestseller, and has been published in 25 editions, including two audiobooks and at least 15 foreign-language versions. [1]

Summary

By finding patterns in stories of violence and abuse, de Becker seeks to highlight the inherent predictability of violence. The book explores various settings where violence may be found—the workplace, the home, the school, dating—and describes what de Becker calls pre-incident indicators (PINS). By noticing PINS (events and behaviors that often precede violence), individuals can better predict violence before it occurs and, therefore, take the necessary precautions and actions to stay safe. The Gift of Fear also describes de Becker's MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems, which have been employed by various celebrities and government agencies to predict and prevent violence.

In The Gift of Fear, de Becker describes pre-incident indicators to watch for:

Reception

The Gift of Fear spent four months on The New York Times bestseller list and was a #1 US bestseller. [2]

A reviewer for Time found the book's section on stalking to be the most informative part. [3] An instructor at the FBI Academy opined that the information in The Gift of Fear would be useful for law enforcement officers by providing "tools for assessing potentially violent encounters". [4] In the Boston Globe , Zachary Dowdy described it as "a how-to book that reads like a thriller". [5] Julie Barlow described The Gift of Fear in The Gazette as "surprisingly credible" and "strangely reassuring". [6] Years after the book's publication, Carolyn Hax recommends The Gift of Fear in her syndicated advice column. [7] [8]

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References

  1. Foreword to the 2010 Kindle edition.
  2. Main Page. Gavin de Becker & Associates website
  3. Van Biema, David (July 28, 1997). "The Lesson: Don't Be Afraid, Be Wary". Time. Vol. 150, no. 4. ISSN   0040-781X.
  4. Linkins, Julie R. (June 2002). "The Gift of Fear (Book)". FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin . Vol. 71, no. 6. ISSN   0014-5688.
  5. Dowdy, Zachary R. (August 25, 1997). "A primer on impending violence". The Boston Globe. p. 93.
  6. Barlow, Julie (August 30, 1997). "Survival tips for era of random violence". The Gazette. Montreal, Canada. p. 90.
  7. Hax, Carolyn (May 25, 2005). "Give daughter the book 'The Gift of Fear'". Statesman Journal. p. 34.
  8. Hax, Carolyn (June 21, 2017). "Friend's husband sends reader unwanted texts, calls". Honolulu Star-Advertiser. p. D1.