Movement Two: The Poser, the Wound, and the Healing
In the second movement, Eldredge asserts that all men carry a wound that hits men in the area of their deep question. He asserts that all men create a false self by which they display themselves to the world at large. [2] This false self, or identity, feigns strength and courage while hiding cowardice and fear. Eldredge calls this false self The Poser. [8] Eldredge says that when men are wounded in they typically go to two extremes or some combination of the two: angry men or passive men. "Look around our churches and ask, 'What is the typical Christian man like?' The answer is usually bored, angry, or passive." The first and deepest wound for most men, according to Eldredge, comes by way of their father.
Eldredge says that the answer to a man's question and the healing of their wound can only be found in Jesus. Eldredge describes the journey of healing and restoration that God wants to take every man on so that they can begin to live life the way he intended for them: freely, and from their regenerated masculine heart. [2]
Movement Three: The Core Desires of a Man's Heart
According to Eldredge, men have three core desires: battle, adventure, beauty.
The first desire is for a "battle to fight." Eldredge says that deep in the heart of every man is a warrior. [1] He rejects the notion that men are crass, abusive, and violent. But what he does push for is a "fierceness" and "courage" that is the heart of a warrior--the ability to stand and fight for something. Eldredge says that for a man to be complete he must be fighting for something.
The second desire is for an "adventure to live." Eldredge points to the desire that most men have for exploration, creativity, and risk-taking as uniquely masculine and a reflection of the heart of God. [1] [9] A man wants to be taken on a grand adventure and this is the invitation of the Gospel, Eldredge says. He points to many figures in Scripture such as Abraham, Jacob, Moses, and David who, when partnered with the call and will of God, were called on spectacular adventures.
The third desire is for a "beauty to rescue." [1] Eldredge does not advocate male superiority or attempt to teach that women want or need to be subjugated by men. He points to the damsel in distress trope in popular storytelling, where a beautiful woman needs rescuing in some fashion, whether it is from a dragon or a wicked stepmother or from fear and hopelessness. [5] He argues that, like men, women have three core desires also, but a man cannot answer her question. Eldredge moves beyond the notion that the Beauty equals a woman. Beauty can be found in nature, music, story, art, and ultimately in relationship with God. According to Eldredge, a man must become a "poet" in this regard--enjoying beauty outside of a woman--before he pursues a woman.
Along the way, Eldredge reminds his readers that only God can fulfill these three desires and the only reason a man has these three desires is because they are a reflection of the heart of God. Everything in Wild At Heart points to God as the center for life, fulfillment, and purpose, according to Eldredge.
