On-again, off-again relationship

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An on-again, off-again relationship is a form of personal relationship between two persons who keep breaking up only to reconcile afterwards, thus repeating a cycle. [1] [2]

Researcher Kale Monk, an assistant professor of human development and family sciences at the University of Missouri, cites several reasons as to why a relationship might be on-again, off-again, including one partner relocating to a new place or the couple re-assessing their relationship. [3] Many continue to reunite out of a persistent hope that the moments of happiness and gratification they have known will eventually constitute the entire relationship. [4]

Being in an on-again, off-again relationship can damage one's mental health, [5] [3] leading to possible depression, eating disorder, and/or anxiety. [6] [7] Additionally, Monk also notes how these types of relationships have higher rates of abuse, poorer communication, and lower levels of commitment. [5] Not all on-again, off-again relationships are considered toxic, as breaking up and reconciling can help a couple with better communication and address the issues in their relationships. [1] [5]

A 2009 study published in the Personal Relationships journal revealed that nearly two-thirds of participants have experienced being in an on-again, off-again relationship. [8] [2]

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