Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

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Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before (and After) You Marry
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AuthorLeslie and Les Parrott
CountryUnited States
LanguageEnglish
SubjectPreparation for marriage
Publisher Zondervan
Publication date
1995
ISBN 0310492408

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before (and After) You Marry is a 1995 book by Leslie and Les Parrott, [1] a married couple. [2] The two have collaboratively written other books as well, including Becoming Soul Mates and The Marriage Mentor Manual. [3] Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is a Christian non-fiction book that focuses on premarital issues. [4] The book comprehensively explains how to be prepared for marriage. [5] Video lessons were included with the publication of the book. [6] In the book, the Parrotts argue that people should seek self-realization individually and cannot expect their spouses to bring about that change in them. [7] They also recommend complimenting one's spouse at least daily. [8] In the book The Family, Jack and Judith Balswick recommended Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts to couples preparing for marriage. [9] Adriana Barton of The Globe and Mail called the Parrotts' book "anodyne." [10]

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References

  1. Leslie Parrott; Les Parrott (1995). Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before (and After) You Marry . Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan. ISBN   0310492408.
  2. Bethany Pico (February 20, 2013). "Popular marriage counselors Les and Leslie Parrott visit campus". Liberty University . Retrieved March 22, 2013.CS1 maint: discouraged parameter (link)
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