Sex Object

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Sex Object: A Memoir
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Author Jessica Valenti
CountryUnited States
LanguageEnglish
Subject Sexism, gender, sexuality
Publisher Dey Street
Publication date
June 1, 2016
Pages224
ISBN 978-0-06-243508-8

Sex Object: A Memoir is a 2016 memoir and the sixth book written by Jessica Valenti. [1] Valenti shares personal stories recounting her childhood and adolescence regarding her treatment as a sex object and the pernicious influence of sexism in her daily encounters. She paints an image of an adult whose identity has been shaped by these experiences. [2] Valenti argues that most women face a similar reality of being shaped by—and making everyday decisions to minimize—male aggressions and sexual assault. [2] Valenti was able to use Sex Object: A Memoir as a platform to focus on sharing experiences with readers, helping them understand how prevalent sexism is for young girls and women, and shedding light on the sheer size of this cultural problem. [3]

Contents

Publication history

Valenti published Sex Object on June 1, 2016 with Dey Street. [4]

Valenti selected the title despite fear of backlash, [5] some of which came to fruition with the book's publication. Speaking to Emma Gray at HuffPost , Valenti said:

"People say, 'Oh you’re too ugly to call yourself a sex object' — as if calling yourself an object is a compliment, which completely misses the point. But I decided that I can’t let harassers determine the content of the book. At the end of the day, this is a book about objectification and dehumanization. So that was the most accurate term." [6]

Summary

The 224-page [7] book is divided in 21 chapters [8] chronicling Valenti's encounters with street harassment and other forms of sexual assault, sexism, and poor treatment from sexual partners. [2] Valenti promotes the idea that men can start mitigating women's daily experience of sexism by listening to women and believing their experiences. [9]

Reception

Reviewing the book in The New Republic , Rafia Zakaria described the book's strength in Valenti's reappraisal of her own experience with objectification, including her prior blindness to the phenomenon; Zakaria compared Valenti's critical reassessment of her own experiences to Adrienne Rich's observation that for women "'revision—the act of looking back, of seeing with fresh eyes, of entering an old text from a new critical direction is more than an act of cultural history; It is an act of survival.' Sex Object is such an act of revision." [10]

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<span class="mw-page-title-main">Sexual objectification</span> Disregarding personality or dignity; reducing a person to a commodity or sex object

Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person solely as an object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity. Objectification is most commonly examined at the level of a society, but can also refer to the behavior of individuals and is a type of dehumanization.

In social philosophy, objectification is the act of treating a person, or sometimes an animal, as an object or a thing. It is part of dehumanization, the act of disavowing the humanity of others. Sexual objectification, the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire, is a subset of objectification, as is self-objectification, the objectification of one's self. In Marxism, the objectification of social relationships is discussed as "reification".

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