Tim Rymel

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Tim Rymel is a former ex-gay leader who worked as the outreach director of Memphis, Tennessee ex-gay ministry Love in Action, between 1991 and 1996. [1] Rymel quietly came out as gay in 2008. [2] In 2014, he released his memoir, Going Gay My Journey fromEvangelical Christian Minister to Self-Acceptance, Love, Life, and Meaning, for which former Love in Action executive director, John Smid, wrote the foreword. Rymel was previously married to a woman and has two children from that marriage. [3]

In July 2014, he signed a statement condemning reparative therapy for minors, along with eight other former leaders and founders of ex-gay ministry. [4] The statement was released through the National Center for Lesbian Rights as part of the #BornPerfect Campaign. [5]

In November 2018, Rymel released his third book, Rethinking Everything When Faith and Reality Don't Make Sense [6] in which he addresses the toxic beliefs of fundamentalist Christianity.

Rymel is social justice writer who writes on the confluence of religion, politics, and sexuality. [7] His work has appeared in The Good Men Project, Huffpost, Medium, Church and State, Ravishly and other publications. He continues to publicly denounce the ex-gay movement, and call for an end to reparative therapy. [8] Rymel is the co-host of the Recovering from Religion Podcast. [9] He is also the author of the business book Everything I Learned About Management I Learned from Having a Kindergartner, [10] and he lives with his husband Northern California. [11]

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