Why Men Marry Bitches

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Why Men Marry Bitches is a self-help book by Sherry Argov. Why Men Marry Bitches was featured on The Today Show [1] and is the sequel to the author's first book, Why Men Love Bitches .

Contents

As explained in the Tucson Citizen, "Argov's book is based on hundreds of hours of interviews, reveals that most men will happily commit to a confident, secure woman who isn't desperate. She defines a 'bitch' as a strong and confident woman who doesn't put her man on a pedestal or behave like his assistant or underling. Put another way, most men are attracted to women who are equal partners." [2]

On behalf of Maclean's Julia McKinnell noted, "The title is provocative but it's not really true that Argov believes a woman has to be a bitch in the sense of a catty battle-axe. She means a woman shouldn't be too nice." Argov advises, "Men want a close relationship, they want marriage. The key to a proposal, though, is to have them feel like it's their idea." [3]

Reception

Library Journal's Deborah Bigelow argued that Argov "busts the myths that a woman has to be perfect, be [a man's] sex toy, and be whatever he wants her to be." Bigelow concluded that Argov's "75 relationship principles cover everything from sex to finance and apply to readers of all ages". [4]

Publishers Weekly wrote, "While encouraging women to be strong, independent and inscrutable is sound advice, the motivation behind this advice-to keep his interest-makes for a headache-inspiring contradiction. Fortunately, Argov takes readers step-by-step through her process, including numerous Relationship Principles that keeps her concepts clear [...]. Though the generalizations Argov uses to describe her pre-bitch audience can at times be condescending, and her goals are more about acting--rather than believing--that you don't need a man to feel complete, the behavior she encourages is healthy and useful, even outside the realm of husband-hunting." [5]

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References

  1. "Why Men Marry Strong Women". Today Show . 2016-02-19. Retrieved 2023-12-11.
  2. Cox, Larry (8 February 2007). "Book Reviews by Larry Cox". Tucson Citizen. p. L.28. ProQuest   237176560.
  3. McKinnell, Julia (2006-04-17). "Why men marry bitchy women". Maclean's . Toronto. 119 (16): 69. ProQuest   218564701.
  4. Bigelow, Deborah (July 2006). "Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart/Think Like a Guy". Library Journal . 31 (12): 93. ProQuest   196832649.
  5. "Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart by Sherry Argov". Publishers Weekly . 2006-06-05. Retrieved 2023-12-11.

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