John Gray (American author)

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John Gray
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Gray in 2016
Born (1951-12-28) December 28, 1951 (age 72)
Houston, Texas, U.S.
Alma mater Maharishi International University, Columbia Pacific University
OccupationAuthor
Notable work Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Spouse(s) Barbara De Angelis (div. 1984)
Bonnie Gray (1986–2018; her death)
Wang Lin (Viki) (2020-present)

John Gray (born December 28, 1951) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer, and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus , which became a long-term best seller and formed the central theme of his subsequent books and career activities. His books have sold millions of copies.

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Early life and education

His parents were both Christians and taught him Yoga and took him to visit Indian Saint Yogananda during his childhood. The Autobiography of A Yogi inspired him greatly later in life. [1]

He received a bachelor's and master's degree in the Science of Creative Intelligence, though sources vary on whether these degrees were received from either the non-accredited Maharishi European Research University (MERU) in Switzerland or the accredited Maharishi International University in Fairfield, Iowa. [2] [3] [4]

Gray received an unaccredited PhD in 1982 from Columbia Pacific University (CPU), a now-defunct correspondence institution. [5] [6] In 2002, he received an honorary doctorate from Governors State University in Illinois after he delivered their commencement address. [7]

Career

In 1969, Gray attended a Transcendental Meditation lecture. He became a celibate and personal assistant to Maharishi Mahesh Yogi for nine years. [2] [5] [8] [9]

Publications

In 1992, Gray published Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which has sold more than 15 million copies [8] [10] and, according to a CNN report, it was the "highest ranked work of non-fiction" of the 1990s. [11] The book has been published in more than 40 languages. [2] [12]

Business ventures

In 1997, Gray began opening Mars & Venus Counseling Centers, where he trains therapists in his "Mars & Venus technique" in exchange for a one-time licensing fee and monthly "royalty payments". Dorothy Cantor, a former president of the American Psychological Association, has questioned the ethics of creating a franchise for what is essentially a therapeutic process. [2]

In 1997, Gray began marketing his products through Genesis Intermedia, a company led by Ramy El-Batrawi. According to their SEC filing, "A substantial portion of our product revenue has come from our Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus product series authored by John Gray, Ph.D." On December 31, 1997, Genesis sold 116,504 shares of its common stock to Dr. John Gray for $900,000. On November 1, 1998, 29,126 of those shares were surrendered. Royalties paid to Dr. Gray for the years ended December 31, 1998, 1997 and 1996 were $0, $50,101, and $423,207, respectively. There were no royalties paid to Dr. Gray during the three months ended March 31, 1999 and 1998. [13] in 2004, a massive class action lawsuit was filed against Genesis Intermedia for stock price manipulation. El-Batrawi settled with the SEC and was barred from acting as an officer or director of a public company for a period of five years. [14]

Gray has been marketing dietary supplements through his Web site since at least 2005. In 2019, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration ordered him to stop making illegal claims for several products: 2-AEP Membrane Complex, Ionic Silver Water, L-Glutathione, Liposomal DHA – Ultimate Omega-3 Brain Support, Liposomal Methyl B12/Folate, NAC N-Acetyl-L-Cysteine, and Vectomega. [15]

Gray is also an early investor in YayYo, Inc, a rental car business for the ride-sharing industry operated by Ramy El-Batrawi. Gray owns 21.44% through his Gray Mars Venus Trust. [16] Ramy El-Batrawi dies of undisclosed causes on April 23, 2024. [17]

Interviews and appearances

Gray has made appeared on multiple talk shows, including Oprah , The Phil Donahue Show , [8] and Larry King Live.[ citation needed ]

In a June 2014 interview with Agence France-Presse, Gray was quoted as saying with regard to feminism, "The reason why there's so much divorce is that feminism promotes independence in women. I'm very happy for women to find greater independence, but when you go too far in that direction, then who's at home?" [18] He also stated that "feminism in America holds back sales of [his] books", while other parts of the world - he cited Australia and Latin America notably - are more in tune with his basic message. [19] With regard to online pornography Gray stated, "With free internet porn, there's a massive addiction happening," adding that there are "just millions and millions of people... experiencing their sexual satisfactions through total fantasy. The effect that porn has on the brain is like taking heroin." With regard to the rise of infidelity sites like Ashley Madison and Arrangement Finders he states, "When you have impersonal sex.... 'It's OK, here are these cheating wives, men, they want to have sex with you'... So you go have sex with someone that you don't know and someone you don't love... impersonal sex does promote addiction to sex," he adds, "it's along the same line of pornography." [18] [20]

Criticism

In 2002, author Julia T. Wood published a critical response to Gray's portrayals of men and women in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. [21] In 2007 Deborah Cameron published a book-length critique of Gray, and other self-help ventures premised on gender difference stereotypes, in The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages? [22]

Gray was accused of borrowing from the work of author Deborah Tannen and he acknowledges some similarities but says, "I was teaching those ideas before I'd heard of her" and that he did not read her book. [23] Other critics have accused Gray of limiting human psychology to stereotypes. [5] [24] [25] [26] [27]

Personal life

Gray married self-help author Barbara De Angelis. They divorced in 1984. Gray married his second wife, Bonnie, in 1986; she died of cancer in 2018. [28] Gray married his third wife, Wang Lin, also known as Viki Gray, on May 4, 2020 in Marin County, California. She was his personal guide during his speaking tours in China. [29]

Gray has a daughter and two stepdaughters. [2] [30] [5] His youngest daughter Lauren markets the Mars Venus brand through her own videos on self-help relationship advice. [31]

Books and other publications

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References

  1. ↑ "MarsVenus.com – John Gray – Life Story". www.marsvenus.com. Archived from the original on June 17, 2019. Retrieved January 5, 2015.
  2. 1 2 3 4 5 Gleick, Elizabeth (June 16, 1997). "Tower of Psychobabble". Time . Archived from the original on July 26, 2009. Retrieved May 27, 2018.
  3. ↑ Hampson, Sara (February 4, 2008). "Looking to God for Relationship Advice". The Globe and Mail. Retrieved April 4, 2013.
  4. ↑ Bridgman, Mary (October 14, 1996). "LOST IN SPACE AUTHOR ARGUES MEN, WOMEN STILL NO CLOSER THAN MARS, VENUS". Columbus Dispatch. Columbus, Ohio. p. 01.B.
  5. 1 2 3 4 Hampton, Sarah (February 4, 2008). "Looking to God for relationship advice". The Globe and Mail. Archived from the original on February 9, 2008. Retrieved September 30, 2008.
  6. ↑ Goldman, Abigail (September 12, 1994). "Mars, Venus... and Cupid Men and women seem to be from different planets. John Gray's message: Come back to Earth and deal with it". LA Times. Archived from the original on February 1, 2013. Retrieved September 30, 2008.
  7. ↑ "Honorary Degree Citation: John Gray" (2003), Governors State University.
  8. 1 2 3 Beaumont-Thomas, Ben (February 14, 2017). "Interview to John Gray. How we made Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus". The Guardian . Retrieved May 27, 2018.
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  11. ↑ "Grisham ranks as top-selling author of decade". CNN.com . December 31, 1999. Archived from the original on September 8, 2012. Retrieved November 18, 2018.
  12. ↑ Hay House author bio Archived November 11, 2013, at the Wayback Machine . Retrieved July 2011.
  13. ↑ "SEC Archives". Sec.gov.
  14. ↑ "Securities and Exchange Commission v. Ramy Y. El-Batrawi, GenesisIntermedia, Inc., Ultimate Holdings, Ltd., Adnan M. Khashoggi, Richard J. Evangelista, Wayne Breedon, and Douglas E. Jacobson, Civil Action No. CV-06-2247 (MRP) (C.D. Ca.)". Sec.gov. April 2, 2010.
  15. ↑ Warning letter to John Gray’s Mars Venus LLC, 2/5/19
  16. ↑ "UNITED STATES SECURITIES AND EXCHANGE COMMISSION". www.sec.gov. Retrieved March 19, 2019.
  17. ↑ News, Hollywood LA (April 24, 2024). "Ramy El-Batrawi Died in L.A." Hollywood LA News. Retrieved April 24, 2024.{{cite web}}: |last= has generic name (help)
  18. 1 2 Staff. "'Mars, Venus' author warns over sex in online world". AFP.com . Agence France-Presse. Archived from the original on June 9, 2014. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
  19. ↑ Staff. "Feminism and free porn are ruining relationships - author". The New Zealand Herald . New Zealand Herald. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
  20. ↑ Staff. "'Men Are From Mars' Author Blames Free Online Porn, Feminists". AVN.com. Adult Video News. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
  21. ↑ Wood, Julia T. (Winter 2002). "A Critical Response to John Gray's Mars and Venus Portrayals of Men and Women". Southern Communication Journal. 67 (2). Memphis, Tennessee: 201–210. doi:10.1080/10417940209373229. OCLC   936904728. S2CID   146380651.
  22. ↑ Cameron, Deborah. The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages? Oxford University Press. 2007.
  23. ↑ Conversation with HarperCollins editor Nancy Peske, 1994
  24. ↑ Murphy, Lauren (February 14, 2002). "Mars and Venus at work; Critics aim to bring Gray back down to Earth". The Washington Times . Retrieved January 7, 2014.
  25. ↑ "Can't Understand Your Mate? It's Time To Align Your Planets". The Palm Beach Post . November 1, 1998. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
  26. ↑ "John Gray Fires Back at Critic Who Questioned His Credentials". Inside Edition . November 20, 2003.
  27. ↑ "John Gray - Bio - Premiere Motivational Speakers Bureau". premierespeakers.com.
  28. ↑ Gray, John (February 15, 2019). "John Gray's wife Bonnie Gray has died of cancer". Brad Kearns.
  29. ↑ Gray\first=John\date=February 13, 2024\website=YouTube. "Dr. John Gray returns LIVE in studio for Valentines w/ Dr. Marissa". www.youtube.com/.{{cite web}}: CS1 maint: numeric names: authors list (link)
  30. ↑ "John Gray: Biography of John Gray". www.askmarsvenus.com.
  31. ↑ "Mars Venus". MarsVenus.

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