Lillian Glass

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Lillian Glass
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Born Miami, Florida
Alma mater University of Michigan
Occupationinterpersonal communication and body language expert, media commentator, litigation consultant
Website http://www.drlillianglass.com/

Lillian Glass is an American interpersonal communication and body language expert, media commentator, a litigation consultant, and author of self-help books. She is also an award winning [1] film director and producer.

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Personal

Lillian Glass was born and raised in Miami, Florida and is the daughter of businessman Abraham Glass and Rosalee Glass (née Talerman), an actress. [2] [3]

Education

Glass graduated from Coral Gables Senior High School [4] and was inducted into the Coral Gables Senior High School Hall of Fame in 2023.[ citation needed ]

Glass received a Bachelor of Science degree from Bradley University [5] in Speech and Hearing Sciences, where she was named one of Glamour Magazine's Top 10 College Women.[ citation needed ] She earned her Master of Science degree from the University of Michigan, where she became interested in gender differences in communication and the study of cranial and dental- facial abnormalities. [6]

She received a doctorate degree from the University of Minnesota and was awarded a Bush Foundation fellowship. She majored in communication disorders, with an emphasis on speech and hearing sciences, and minored in clinical genetics. Her doctoral dissertation focused on "Psychosocial Perceptions of Speech and Cosmetic Appearance of Patients with Craniofacial Abnormalities". [7]

She received a post-doctorate in Medical Genetics at UCLA School of Medicine. Glass has published in various professional journals, including the New England Journal of Medicine . [8]

In 2013, Glass attended Pepperdine University's School of Law Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution, where she studied "Mediation".[ citation needed ] In 2016, Glass completed her training in "Divorce & Family Mediation" at the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution.[ citation needed ]

Career

Academics

Upon completing her postdoctoral training at UCLA School of Medicine, Glass became an associate professor at the University of Southern California (USC). She held joint appointments with the School of Medicine, [9] Department of Medical Genetics, School of Dentistry, and Department of Speech Communication and was a researcher at the University of Southern California Speech Research Lab. [10] Glass has published numerous publications in various medical & scientific journals as well. [11] [12] [13]

Private practice

Glass began her private practice in Beverly Hills, California, treating patients with speech and hearing difficulties. Her practice progressed to training actors for movie roles. One of her first clients included Dustin Hoffman whom she taught to sound like a woman for Tootsie. [14] Glass also worked with Sean Connery [15] and Dolly Parton. [16] She coached Rob Pilatus and Fabrice Morvan [17] of Milli Vanilli. She also worked with Fran Dresser(The Nanny) to help her modify her New York accent. [18] Caitlyn Jenner also worked with Glass to learn how to feminize her voice and body language as she transitioned from being Bruce Jenner. [19] Glass also worked with singer Julio Iglesias [2] and actor Andy Garcia. [2]

Glass has also lectured on the topic of communication and body language. [20]

Media

Glass began her television career as a co-host on Alive and Well on USA Network [ citation needed ] and as a psychology reporter for the ABC affiliate in Los Angeles, KABC Television. [21] She has since appeared as a commentator on a variety of news and talk shows, including Good Morning America [22] and the Today show. [23] [24] In addition, she has often appeared on various news shows discussing the body language and communication patterns of newsmakers, including CNN, [25] and MSNBC, [26] [27] Inside Edition, [28] and 20/20 [29] and others. [30] [31] Finally, she has appeared on numerous reality shows, [32] [33] and was the body language expert on Season 8 of Dancing With the Stars , [34] BRAVO's Millionaire Matchmaker, [35] and Busted and Disgusted. [36] She has also appeared on National Geographic's Brain Games [ citation needed ] and on Dr. Phil . [37] [38]

Glass has written a monthly body language column for CosmopolitanMagazine. [39]

Along with her "Dr. Lillian Glass Body Language Blog", [40] Glass also writes about celebrities and newsmakers in her blog, Reading People, for Psychology Today . [41] She has also been a contributor to Women in Crime Ink . [42]

Film career

Glass began a film career in 2017 as a director and producer.

Her first film is the documentary Reinventing Rosalee. [3] The film is about her mother, Rosalee Glass, a Holocaust survivor who did remarkable things in her late senior years such as becoming an actress, writing a book, and riding with Alaskan sled dogs at the age of 100.

Her next film is a documentary titled De-Escalation [43] which presents 7 major high profile cases of police brutality and what could have been done differently.

Her third film, a documentary called Feisty Fighter- The Marnezba Tackett Story, [44] is narrated by broadway actor Ben Vereen.

Her most recent film is Hey Beautiful [45] , a documentary & love story about a woman with a facial deformity who never thought she would find love, only to celebrate her 32nd wedding anniversary.

Honors and awards

Glass was inducted into the Coral Gables Senior High School Hall of Fame in 2023.[ citation needed ]

She was selected as "Outstanding Young Graduate" by Bradley University and inducted into membership into their highest alumni honor society, "The Centurion Society". [5]

Glass was not only honored by Glamour Magazine as one of the "10 Top College Women"[ citation needed ] but years later was honored as one of the 10 "Outstanding Young Working Women."[ citation needed ]

In her film career, Glass has won numerous film awards for "Best Director" [1] and "Best Female Director" [1] for her film Reinventing Rosalee. [3] She has also won the award of "Best Documentary" for her films Reinventing Rosalee, [3] Hey Beautiful, [1] and Feisty Fighter-The Marnesba Tackett Story [44] in various film festivals throughout the world.

Noise Pollution Awareness Advocacy

As a USC professor, Glass warned the public against the dangers of noise pollution. [9] Glass, along with a group of celebrities, advocated the building of acoustical noise barriers to help mitigate noise pollution in Los Angeles. She was also on the Board of Directors of a consumer advocacy group established by the American Speech-Language and Hearing Association to help create awareness with regard to noise pollution.

Published works

Books

Glass' self-help books deal with the topics of Human Behavior, Communication Skills, and Body Language. They are published in many languages throughout the world.

Her books concerning Human Behavior include: Toxic People - 10 Ways of Dealing with People Who Make Your Life Miserable, [46] Toxic Men - 10 ways of Identifying [47] , Dealing With and Healing From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable, Attracting Terrific People - How to Find and Keep the People Who Bring Your Life Joy, [48] 50 Ways My Dog Made Me Into A Better Person [49] and The Complete Idiot's Guide to Understanding Men and Women. [50]

Her books on Communication Skills include: Talk to Win- Six Steps to a Successful Vocal Image, [51] Confident Conversation, [52] How to Deprogram Your Valley Girl, [53] Say It Right-How to Talk In Any Social or Business Situation, [54] He Says She Says: Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes, [55] The Complete Idiot's Guide to Verbal Self Defense [56] , and Bikram Vocal Yoga - Voice Communication and Body Language Skills to Increase Confidence and Enrich Your Life. [57]

Her books pertaining to Body Language include: I Know What You're Thinking- Using the Four Codes of Reading People to Improve Your Life, [58] Guide to Identifying Terrorists Through Body Language by Lillian Glass Ph.D. and former FBI Special Agent D.Vincent Sullivan, [59] The Body Language Advantage: Maximize Your Personal and Professional Relationships with this Ultimate Photo Guide to Deciphering What Others Are Secretly Saying in Any Situation, [60] and The Body Language of Liars- From Little White Lies to Pathological Deception - How to See through the Fibs, Frauds, and Falsehoods People Tell You Every Day. [61]

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