Pick-up line

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A pick-up line or chat-up line is a conversation opener with the intent of engaging a person for romance or dating. As overt and sometimes humorous displays of romantic interest, pick-up lines advertise the wit of their speakers to their target listeners.

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Pick-up lines range from straightforward conversation openers such as introducing oneself, providing information about oneself, or asking someone about their likes [1] and common interests, [2] to more elaborate attempts including flattery [3] or humour. [4]

Novices are advised to avoid standardised and hackneyed lines (particularly those resembling country songs [5] ) and to put their opening in an interrogative form, if possible. [6]

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References

  1. Kuriansky, Judith (2003). "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating". p. 118. ISBN   1-59257-153-0.
  2. Berne, Eric (1964). Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships. Grove Press. pp. 155-156. ISBN   0-3944-7506-2
  3. Berne, Eric (1970). Sex in Human Loving. Simon and Schuster. p. 238. ISBN   0-6712-0771-7
  4. Dolan, Eric W. (2021-06-23). "New study provides insight into the best pick-up lines to use on Tinder". PsyPost. Retrieved 2022-11-17.
  5. J. Browne, Joy (2011). Dating for Dummies. John Wiley & Sons. p. 86. ISBN   978-0-470-89205-3
  6. J. Sidnell, Jack (2011). Conversation Analysis. John Wiley & Sons. p. 14 ISBN   978-1-4051-5901-2

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