Bend Over Boyfriend

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Bend Over Boyfriend
Bend Over Boyfriend poster.jpg
Poster
Directed byShar Rednour
Written byShar Rednour
Produced byNan Kinney
Starring Carol Queen
Robert Morgan
CinematographyKaren Everett
Edited byKaren Everett
Music byJackie Strano
Debbie Torrey
Production
company
Fatale Media
Release date
  • April 1998 (1998-04)
Running time
60 minutes
CountryUnited States
LanguageEnglish

Bend Over Boyfriend is a 1998 American pornographic film directed by Shar Rednour and produced by Nan Kinney. Intended for heterosexual couples, the film provides guidance on female-to-male anal penetration using a strap-on dildo. It features Carol Queen and Robert Morgan as themselves, along with two additional couples, combining explicit demonstrations with instructional commentary. [1]

Contents

In 1998, Bend Over Boyfriend became the fastest selling video ever for Good Vibrations, a sex-toy business. [2] It was nominated for Best Specialty Release at the 1999 AVN Awards. The video was featured on The Daily Show .[ citation needed ] In 1999, a sequel, Bend Over Boyfriend 2 , was released.

Plot

Sex educator Carol Queen introduce the act of female-to-male anal penetration using a strap-on dildo, with her real-life male partner Robert Morgan Lawrence. Couples watching this instructions at home, tries it for the first time. The video leads to Queen demonstrating the act herself by penetrating Lawrence.

Cast

Production

Jackie Strano and Shar Rednour, the creators behind the lesbian pornography company SIR Video Productions, conceived the Bend Over Boyfriend while working at the Good Vibrations retail sex toy store in the late 1990s. [3] It was directed by Rednour with Strano as assistant director. [4] Produced by Nan Kinney, president of Fatale Media, a lesbian pornography company, Kinney was then part of the sex positive feminism movement. [5]

In an interview, when asked about the irony of lesbian pornographer making a film for heterosexual people, Kinney said that "I do love the irony in it! Well, who better than lesbians to show straight gals how to strap it on? [...] Our goal had always been to cover sexual subjects in a way that mainstream porn wasn't, and this fit that goal". [6] For performers, they recruited real-life couples through Craigslist . [7] Rednour commented that, although Bend Over Boyfriend was meant for heterosexual couples, she cast lesbians in penetrator roles because "dykes are more likely to know how to fuck". [8] On her experience working in Bend Over Boyfriend series, Rednour later commented: "I loved directing the BOB movies. Seeing the guys getting so into it and saying, 'Wow this is great. Why didn't I try this sooner?' On set, Carol and I would just smile,". [9]

Reception

Sasha from Eye Weekly wrote: "Its underlying message, that fucking your boyfriend in the ass is fun, is a good one", but the presentation "made anal sex seem more distasteful rather than more attractive". [1] Feminist author Susie Bright praised the film on Salon.com, writing that "it couldn't be more user-friendly: part sex education, part erotic show", the lovers "demonstrate with great flair how anal sex doesn't have to hurt (anymore than toast needs to burn)". [8] In 2008, she said: "I loved when the Bend Over Boyfriend series started. Finally, there was a situation where men could talk about being the recipient of anal sex from women". [7]

Tristan Taormino, writing for the Village Voice , credits the video as an archetype for a substantial cultural shift: "The roles of active initiator and penetrator are no longer solely the domain of men, nor are the qualities of receptivity and passivity for girls only. Nowhere is this more apparent than in what I identify as the Bend Over Boyfriend Archetype." [10] AVN magazine wrote that "it never gets dull, thanks to some well-edited and humorous visual demonstrations". [11]

In 2000, Melinda Gallagher and Emily Kramer of Vice called it a "clear choice for female-powered experimentation" and that "watching women strap one on as their boy-toys beg for more received a thumbs up all around". [12] In 2023, Naomi Leroy writing for Fleshbot, called it a classic, adding that "all of the information in this film is actually great anal advice for anyone looking to play with buttholes, no matter the gender of the giver or receiver". [13] April Dembosky of KQED called it a "feminist porn film". [14]

Pride.com editor called it "a legendary instructional video that helps women fuck their boy-toys from behind". [5] PinkLabel.TV wrote: "Laced with humor and common sense, Bend Over Boyfriend is perfect for any couple wanting to explore new sexual territory and discover the secrets of anal sex that lead to ecstasy". [4]

Accolades

The film was nominated for Best Specialty Tape—Other Genre category at the 16th AVN Awards (1999). [15]

Sequel

A sequel, Bend Over Boyfriend 2 , was released in (1999). Porn star Chloe appears in the second video; as she is best known as an anal queen, her use of a strap-on dildo is a "role reversal". Queen said she was told the first video was "like watching a driving-instruction video", and the sequel, named Bend Over Boyfriend 2: Less Talkin', More Rockin', attempts to address this concern. [1]

Legacy

Dan Savage, who popularized the term pegging, originally offered "bob" (short for "Bend over Boyfriend") as one of two alternatives for the term. [16] The film is often credited by the media for popularizing pegging to mainstream audience. [17] [18] In 1999, while criticizing sodomy laws, feminist journalist Debbie Nathan cited the success of Bend Over Boyfriend and imagined a scenario where "sex police" busts on a "PTA mom while she's reaming the man of the house with her strap-on", suggesting that "when that happens, the rest of the sodomy laws surely will fall". [19]

In 2010, AVN wrote that the Bend Over Boyfriend series was "the first to tackle the taboo erotic art of anal pleasure for men". [9] In 2008, Violet Blue wrote that the film "hit shelves at exactly the point (literally) in the late '90s that an ever-growing number of the het populace was looking for just such a re-invention. It sold like hotcakes, or hot buns, or hot leather harnesses". [20] Sociologist Mimi Schippers in her book Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities (2019) stated that the film does "a sort of cultural work in terms of eroticizing queer and penetrable hetero-masculinities." [21]

References

  1. 1 2 3 Sasha (2002-10-03). "Sex educator wants you to bend over, boyfriend". Eye Weekly . Archived from the original on 2011-05-22.
  2. ↑ Nathan, Debbie (1999-04-01). "Sodomy for the Masses". The Nation .
  3. ↑ Comella, Lynn (18 August 2017). Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure. Duke University Press. p. 13. ISBN   978-0-8223-7267-7 . Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  4. 1 2 "Bend Over Boyfriend: A Couple's Guide to Male Anal Pleasure". PinkLabel.TV 3.0. Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  5. 1 2 "Five Women Redefining Your Sex Life". Pride.com. June 8, 2012. Archived from the original on April 21, 2024. Retrieved June 23, 2025.
  6. ↑ Donohue, Caitlin (5 November 2021). "Legendary lesbian adult filmmaker Nan Kinney talks past and present of XXX". 48 hills. Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  7. 1 2 Clarke, Kelly (13 February 2008). "Susie Bright: Best American Erotica editor talks vinyl, sex politics and hot flashes". Willamette Week . Retrieved 22 January 2025.
  8. 1 2 Bright, Susie (22 May 1998). "Move over, Ken, it's "Bend Over Boyfriend"". Salon.com . Retrieved 22 January 2025.
  9. 1 2 Tech (28 April 2010). "HotMovies.com Becomes First to Stream 'Bend Over Boyfriend' Series AVN". AVN . Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  10. ↑ Taormino, Tristan (2003-04-30). "The Queer Heterosexual". Village Voice . Archived from the original on 2007-12-03.
  11. ↑ "Bend Over Boyfriend AVN". AVN. 1 January 1999. Retrieved 22 January 2025.
  12. ↑ KRAMER, MELINDA GALLAGHER, EMILY (1 December 2000). "No More Faking It". VICE.{{cite news}}: CS1 maint: multiple names: authors list (link)
  13. ↑ LeRoy, Naomi (2 March 2023). "Throwback Thursday: Let's Revisit Pegging Classic Bend Over Boyfriend For International Women's Day!". Fleshbot . Retrieved 22 January 2025.
  14. ↑ Dembosky, April (23 June 2020). "Negotiating Safe Socializing Has a Lot in Common With Negotiating Safe Sex | KQED". KQED . Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  15. ↑ "The 1999 AVN Awards Winners". Adult Video News . 15 (3). AVN Publications, Inc. (published March 1, 1999): 56–58. March 1999. ISSN   0883-7090.
  16. ↑ Savage, Dan (2001-06-21). "We Have a Winner!". Savage Love. Archived from the original on 2005-06-25.
  17. ↑ Smiedt, David (27 March 2025). "Subtle signs your man is into pegging, and how to breach it". Bodyandsoul.com.au. Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  18. ↑ "It's totally OK to like pegging if you're a straight man - 7 guys tells us why". Metro.co.uk. 22 November 2017. Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  19. ↑ Nathan, Debbie (1 April 1999). "Sodomy for the Masses". The Nation . Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  20. ↑ Blue, Violet (4 September 2008). "Bend Over Onstage, Boyfriend / Violet Blue observes that the". SF Gate . Retrieved 31 May 2025.
  21. ↑ Schippers, Mimi (16 August 2016). Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities. NYU Press. p. 162. ISBN   978-1-4798-0159-6 . Retrieved 11 August 2025.

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