Serenity Prayer

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A version of the Serenity prayer appearing on an Alcoholics Anonymous medallion (date unknown).

The Serenity Prayer is an invocation by the petitioner for wisdom to understand the difference between circumstances ("things") that can and cannot be changed, asking courage to take action in the case of the former, and serenity to accept in the case of the latter.

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The prayer has achieved very wide distribution, spreading through the YWCA and other groups in the 1930s, and in Alcoholics Anonymous and related organizational materials since at least 1941. Since at least the early 1960s, commercial enterprises such as Hallmark Cards have used the prayer in its greeting cards and gift items. The prayer has also made its way into popular culture, including in works by Bill Watterson, Neil Young, Bryan Lee O'Malley and Sinéad O'Connor, and programming including True Detective .

History

The prayer was originally composed by Protestant theologian Reinhold Niebuhr in the early 1930s. Initially popularized by one of his colleagues, the prayer began to spread widely without reference to the original author.

Around 1932, Niebuhr is reported to have first used the prayer as the last part of a longer prayer. [1] In an October 31, 1932 diary entry by American YWCA official Winnifred Crane Wygal  [ Wikidata ], she quotes Niebuhr (a colleague):

The victorious man in the day of crisis is the man who has the serenity to accept what he cannot help and the courage to change what must be altered. [2]

Drawing on this, Wygal published a prayer in the March 1933 edition of YWCA periodical The Woman's Press, [3] which was soon shared with a broader audience on the front page of the Santa Cruz Sentinel of March 15, 1933. [4] [2] [5] [6] It read:

Oh, God, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what can not be helped, and insight to know the one from the other. [4]

The prayer was also quoted in the Richmond Times-Dispatch later that month. [7] Substantial quotes from the prayer were also printed in two Atlanta newspapers that month. [8] [9]

The prayer appeared a few additional times in American and Canadian newspapers in the 1930s, associated with the YWCA or with individual women. In 1937, the prayer was published in a Christian student newsletter, attributing it to Niebuhr. [10]

Wygal published the prayer again in her 1940 book We Plan Our Own Worship Services, and attributed it to Niebuhr. [6] It took this form:

O God, give us the serenity to accept what cannot be changed, the courage to change what can be changed, and the wisdom to know the one from the other. [11]

The prayer became published in English language newspapers much more from 1940, but never attributed to Wygal or Neibuhr.

In June 1941, the prayer was published in an obituary in the New York Herald Tribune , and from here became known by the first Alcoholics Anonymous group. The organisation embraced it and spread it widely. [1] It was initially known within the group as "The AA prayer", but by the late 1940s, was known as "the serenity prayer." [1] [12]

Niebuhr presented it in a 1943 sermon at Heath Evangelical Union Church in Heath, Massachusetts. [13] [6] Niebuhr's wife and daughter would later say this was when they understood the prayer was first written and used. [14] It then also appeared in a sermon of Niebuhr's in the 1944 ABook of Prayers and Services for the Armed Forces, [6] and was printed on cards for American soldiers in WWII. [15] [16] From January 1944, Niebuhr began being cited as the source of the prayer in newspaper articles.

Niebuhr also published it in a magazine column in 1951. [6] [17]


By this stage, the prayer had become commonly quoted as:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference. [6]

In 1962, Hallmark began using the prayer in its graduation cards, crediting Niebuhr, [17] and in the 1970s they also produced a wall plaque.[ citation needed ] Posters and household ornaments were produced by others without attribution.[ citation needed ]

William FitzGerald believes Wygal wrote the prayer, arguing sexism as the reason for misattribution, [18] while Fred Shapiro, with greater nuance, has alternated in his conclusions, but presents both the messages that the "[o]rigin is debated" and Wygal as author in materials relating to The New Yale Book of Quotations, published in 2021. [5] [6] [19]

Versions

The prayer has appeared in many versions.[ citation needed ] Reinhold Niebuhr's versions of the prayer were always printed as a single prose sentence; printings that set out the prayer as three lines of verse modify the author's original version.[ citation needed ] The best-known form is a late version,[ according to whom? ] as it includes a reference to grace not found before 1951:[ citation needed ]

God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.[ This quote needs a citation ]

The following clauses were added in the AA Origin of the Serenity Prayer: A Historic Paper [20] but were not part of the tripartite original. Niebuhr's daughter in her book The Serenity Prayer: Faith and Politics in Time of Peace and War said: "... their message and their tone are not in any way Niebuhrian." [21] :293

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as He did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that He will make all things right,
If I surrender to His will,
That I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.

Amen.

A version, apparently quoted from memory and asking for the author of the quotation, appeared in the "Queries and Answers" column in The New York Times Book Review in July 1950, [22] [ full citation needed ] and received a reply in the same column in August 1950, attributing the prayer to Niebuhr, and quoting it as follows:

O God and Heavenly Father,
Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed; courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other, through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen. [23] [ full citation needed ]

Some twelve-step recovery programs use a slightly different version:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference. [24]

Early history

The earliest recorded reference to the prayer is a diary entry from 1932 by Winnifred Crane Wygal  [ Wikidata ], a pupil and collaborator of Reinhold Niebuhr, quoting the prayer and attributing it to Niebuhr:

R.N. says that ... "The victorious man in the day of crisis is the man who has the serenity to accept what he cannot help and the courage to change what must be altered." [6]

Several versions of the prayer then appeared in newspaper articles in the early 1930s written by, or reporting on talks given by, Wygal. [6] In 1940, Wygal included the following form of the prayer in a book on worship, attributing it to Niebuhr:

O God, give us the serenity to accept what cannot be changed, the courage to change what can be changed, and the wisdom to know the one from the other. [25]

Wygal was a longtime YWCA official and all early recorded usages were from women involved in volunteer or educational activities connected to the YWCA. [6] [17] :3

An early printed reference, in 1936, mentions that during a speech, a Miss Mildred Pinkerton "quotes the prayer", as if to indicate it was already in a circulation known to the reporter, or that Pinkerton relayed it as a quote, without mentioning its authorship.[ This quote needs a citation ] A 1937 Christian student publication attributed the prayer to Niebuhr in the following form, which matches the other earliest published forms in requesting "courage to change" before petitioning for serenity:

Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other.[ citation needed ]

Various other authors also cited Niebuhr as the source of the prayer onward from 1937. [6] The Federal Council of Churches (NCC) included the prayer in a book for army chaplains and servicemen in 1944, and the USO circulated the prayer (with Niebuhr's permission) to soldiers on printed cards during World War II. [15] [16] In 1950, in response to questions about the already quite widely known prayer's provenance, Niebuhr wrote that the prayer "may have been spooking around for years, even centuries, but I don't think so. I honestly do believe that I wrote it myself." [12] [26] He confirmed this in 1967. [16] His daughter, Elisabeth Sifton, thought that Niebuhr had first written it in 1943, [21] :277 while Niebuhr's wife Ursula believed it had been written in 1941 or 1942, adding that it may have been used in prayers as early as 1934.[ citation needed ]

The Serenity Prayer was listed under Niebuhr in the Yale Book of Quotations (2006). Editor Fred R. Shapiro first raised doubts about Niebuhr's authorship in 2008, [17] but after further research confirmed him in 2010. [10] William FitzGerald of Rutgers University-Camden argued in 2017 that credit should be given to Winnifred Wygal, a YWCA official and student of Neibuhr's at Union Theological Seminary. FitzGerald noted, "this is certainly not the first time a woman's voice has been silenced by a man's voice." [18] [ non-primary source needed ] Wygal is listed as the author of the Serenity Prayer in the 2021 edition of The New Yale Book of Quotations; [5] [19] Shapiro includes a discussion of the origin of The Serenity Prayer in the introduction. [27]

Mistaken dating and attribution

Though Niebuhr's daughter was once quoted suggesting that Niebuhr first wrote the prayer for the 1943 sermon at the Heath Evangelical Union Church, [15] there is convincing documentary evidence that he had used it much earlier. [17] [6] The prayer has also been falsely attributed to a variety of other authors.[ citation needed ]

Precursors

Numerous statements of more or less similar sentiments by other authors have been identified.[ citation needed ] These include:[ citation needed ]

Epictetus wrote:

Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens. Some things are up to us [eph' hêmin] and some things are not up to us. Our opinions are up to us, and our impulses, desires, aversionsin short, whatever is our own doing. Our bodies are not up to us, nor are our possessions, our reputations, or our public offices, or, that is, whatever is not our own doing." [28] [ non-primary source needed ]

The 8th-century Indian Buddhist scholar Shantideva of the ancient Nalanda Mahavihara suggested:

If there's a remedy when trouble strikes,
What reason is there for dejection?
And if there is no help for it,
What use is there in being glum? [29] [ non-primary source needed ]

The 11th-century Jewish philosopher Solomon ibn Gabirol wrote:

And they said: At the head of all understanding – is distinguishing between what is and what cannot be, and the consoling of what is not in our power to change. [30] [ full citation needed ][ non-primary source needed ]

Expressing a sentiment similar to that of Niebuhr,[ citation needed ] the philosopher W.W. Bartley juxtaposes without comment Niebuhr's prayer with a Mother Goose rhyme (1695):

For every ailment under the sun
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it. [31]

Friedrich Schiller presents what some have said[ who? ] are sentiments similar to the first part of Niebuhr's prayer, in 1801:

Blessed is he, who has learned to bear what he cannot change, and to give up with dignity, what he cannot save." [32] [ non-primary source needed ]

Spurious attributions

The prayer has been variously attributed (without evidence) to Thomas Aquinas, Cicero, Augustine, Boethius, Marcus Aurelius, [33] and Francis of Assisi, [34] [ better source needed ] among others.[ citation needed ]

Theodor Wilhelm, a professor of education at the University of Kiel, published a German version of the prayer under the pseudonym "Friedrich Oetinger" in 1951. [35] Wilhelm's version of the prayer became popular in West Germany, where it was widely but falsely attributed to the 18th-century philosopher Friedrich Christoph Oetinger. Elisabeth Sifton described Wilhelm's account of the history of the prayer as "dishonest". [21] :343

Use by twelve-step recovery programs

The prayer became more widely known after being brought to the attention of Alcoholics Anonymous in 1941 by an early member, [36] who came upon it in a caption in a "routine New York Herald Tribune obituary". [37] The original clipping appeared in the May 28, 1941, public notices section: "Mother--God grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, courage to change things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Goodby." [38] AA's co-founder Bill W. and the staff liked the prayer and had it printed in modified form and handed around. It has been part of Alcoholics Anonymous ever since, and has also been used in other twelve-step programs. "Never had we seen so much A.A. in so few words," noted Bill W. [39] The January 1950 edition of the Grapevine (The International Journal of Alcoholics Anonymous) identifies Niebuhr as the author, [12] as does the AA web site. [26]

Adaptations by other authors

In Bill Watterson's comic strip Calvin and Hobbes , Calvin says:

Know what I pray for? The strength to change what I can, the inability to accept what I can't, and the incapacity to tell the difference. [40]

In Kurt Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse-Five , the Serenity Prayer appears in Chapter 3: it is displayed in Billy Pilgrim's optometry office; and though it reassures Pilgrim's patients, the Serenity Prayer underscores the irony of Pilgrim's fatalism.

A 1978 newspaper cartoon turned the phrase on its head: "If I'm not home accepting what I can't change, I'm probably out changing what I can't accept"; [41] and a variant has become a popular slogan: "I'm no longer accepting the things I cannot change. I'm changing the things I cannot accept". This form is often, but incorrectly, attributed to the American activist Angela Davis. [42]

Neil Young cites a Latin translation of the Serenity Prayer on the back cover of his 1981 album Re•ac•tor. [43]

Sinéad O'Connor cites the prayer in the intro of the song "Feel So Different", from her 1990 album I Do Not Want What I Haven't Got. [44]

The prayer features in season 3 of True Detective. [45]

Rap group Goodie Mob cited the prayer in their skit titled after the prayer, from their 1995 album Soul Food

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