Sam Vaknin | |
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Born | Shmuel Vaknin April 21, 1961 (age 63) |
Occupation | Writer |
Known for | Self-help material on narcissistic personality disorder. Work on chronons. |
Spouse | Lidija Rangelovska |
Website | samvak.tripod.com |
Shmuel "Sam" Vaknin (born April 21, 1961) is an Israeli writer and professor of psychology. [1] [2] He is the author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited (1999), was the last editor-in-chief of the now-defunct political news website Global Politician , and runs a private website about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). [3] [4]
He has also postulated a theory on chronons and time asymmetry. [5]
Vaknin was born in Kiryat Yam, Israel, the eldest of five children born to Sephardi Jewish immigrants. Vaknin's mother was from Turkey, and his father, a construction worker, was from Morocco. He describes a difficult childhood, in which he writes that his parents "were ill-equipped to deal with normal children, let alone the gifted". [6]
He left home to serve in the Israel Defense Forces from 1979 to 1982 in training and education units. Between 1980 and 1983 he founded a chain of computerized information kiosks in Tel Aviv, and in 1982 worked for the Nessim D. Gaon Group in Geneva, Paris, and New York City.
In the mid-1980s, he became aware of difficulties in his relationship with his fiancée, and that he had mood swings. In 1985 he sought help from a psychiatrist, who diagnosed him with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Vaknin did not accept the diagnosis.
From 1986 to 1987, he was the general manager of IPE Ltd. in London. He moved back to Israel, where he became director of an Israeli investment firm, Mikbatz Teshua. [3] He was also president of the Israeli chapter of the Unification Church's Professors for World Peace Academy. [7]
In Israel, in 1995, he was found guilty on three counts of securities fraud along with two other men, Nissim Avioz and Dov Landau. He was sentenced to 18 months' imprisonment and fined 50,000 shekels (about $14,000), while the company was fined 100,000 shekels. [8] [9] In 1996, as a condition of parole, he agreed to a mental health evaluation, which noted various personality disorders. According to Vaknin: "I was borderline, schizoid, but the most dominant was NPD," and on this occasion he accepted the diagnosis, because, he wrote, "it was a relief to know what I had." [10]
Vaknin moved to Skopje, Republic of Macedonia (now North Macedonia), where he married Macedonian Lidija Rangelovska. They set up Narcissus Publications in 1997, which publishes Vaknin's work. [11] Between 2001 and 2003, Vaknin was a Senior Business Correspondent for United Press International. [12] [13] He has also written for Central Europe Review about political issues in the Balkans, [14] as well as for the Middle East Times . [15] Until a few weeks before the September 2002 Macedonian election, he served as an adviser to Macedonia's Ministry of Finance. He writes regularly for other publications, such as the International Analyst Network, [16] Brussels Morning, [17] and the online American Chronicle. [18]
Vaknin was a visiting professor at Southern Federal University in Rostov Oblast, Russia in 2017–22 [19] holding a course of lectures there on personality theory. [20] He is also a professor of management and a professor of psychology in the Commonwealth Institute of Advanced and Professional Studies (CIAPS) in Nigeria, Canada and the United Kingdom. [21]
Vaknin served as a founding member of the Steering Committee for the Advancement of Healthcare in the Republic of North Macedonia between 2009-2011. [22] Vaknin is a member of the Board of Advisors of CFACT Committee for a Constructive Tomorrow. [23]
A model of quantised time was proposed by Vaknin in his 1982 Ph.D. dissertation, titled "Time Asymmetry Revisited". [24] The dissertation was published by Pacific Western University (California). The dissertation submitted postulates the existence of a particle (chronon). In the proposed theory, time is the result of the interaction of chronons, very much as other forces in nature are the result of other particle interactions. Vaknin postulates the existence of various time quarks (up, down, colors, etc.) whose properties cancel each other and thus the arrow of time is derived (time asymmetry). The postulated particle (chronon) is not only an ideal clock, but also mediates time itself (analogous to the relationship between the Higgs boson and mass). In other words, what we call "time" is the interaction between chronons in a field. Chronons exchange between them a particle and thereby exert a force. "Events" are perturbations in the Time Field and they are distinct from chronon interactions. Chronon interactions (particle exchanges) in the Time Field generate "time" and "time asymmetry" as we observe them. [5] [24] [25] [26]
Vaknin has a prolific online presence, writing on narcissism and psychopathy. [27] His views have been solicited by the media. [6] [28]
In his view, narcissists have lost their "true self", the core of their personality, which has been replaced by delusions of grandeur, a "false self". Therefore, he believes, they cannot be healed, because they do not exist as real persons, only as reflections: "The False Self replaces the narcissist's True Self and is intended to shield him from hurt and narcissistic injury by self-imputing omnipotence… The narcissist pretends that his False Self is real and demands that others affirm this confabulation." [29]
Vaknin extends the concept of narcissistic supply and introduces concepts such as primary and secondary narcissistic supply. [30] He distinguishes between cerebral and somatic narcissists; the former generate their narcissistic supply by applying their minds, the latter their bodies. He considers himself a cerebral narcissist. [31] He calls narcissistic co-dependents "inverted narcissists." [32] "[They] provide the narcissist with an obsequious, unthreatening audience… the perfect backdrop." [33] He observes that narcissists possess "cold empathy" (cognitive and reflexive). [34]
Vaknin suggests that narcissists and their intimate partners regard each other as introjected, idealized maternal figures ("snapshotting" [35] ) in a shared fantasy and attempt to re-enact early childhood dynamics in their relationships, in what he dubs a "dual mothership". [36] He postulated the existence of a type of narcissistic borderline he dubbed covert borderline. [37] He believes that disproportionate numbers of pathological narcissists are at work in the most influential reaches of society, such as medicine, finance and politics [10] as a manifestation of growing collective narcissism. [38]
Vaknin developed a new treatment modality for narcissism and depression, dubbed "Cold Therapy". [39] It is based on recasting pathological narcissism as a form of CPTSD (Complex Post-traumatic Stress Disorder) and arrested development, which result in an addictive personality with a dysfunctional attachment style. The therapy uses re-traumatization and a form of reframing. [40] [41] [42]
In 2007, Vaknin appeared in the episode "Egomania" of the British Channel 4 documentary series Mania.
In 2009, he was the subject of an Australian documentary film, I, Psychopath, directed by Ian Walker. In the movie, Vaknin underwent a psychological evaluation in which he met the criteria for psychopathy according to the Hare Psychopathy Checklist, but did not meet the criteria for narcissism. [43] [44]
In 2016, Vaknin appeared in the documentary How Narcissists Took Over the World produced by Vice Media. [45]
In 2019, Vaknin appeared in the online documentary Plugged-in: The True Toxicity of Social Media Revealed produced by Richard Grannon. [46]
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