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Daddy is a slang term that refers to a sexually attractive older man or a man who is sexually involved with a younger partner. [1] [2] [3]
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Daddy is a slang term that refers to a sexually attractive older man or a man who is sexually involved with a younger partner. [1] [2] [3]
According to the Historical Dictionary of American Slang , the earliest use of "daddy" in a non-paternal context was in 1681, in reference to what sex workers called their procurers or older male customers. [4] [5]
Throughout the 1920s, the term was used in blues music and African-American Vernacular English to mean one's boyfriend, especially an older man or a sugar daddy. In 1920, the term is used in a romantic context in Aileen Stanley's blues song "I Wonder Where My Sweet, Sweet Daddy's Gone." [6] Its usage is similar in Lavinia Turner's 1922 song "How Can I Be Your 'Sweet Mama' When You're 'Daddy' to Someone Else?" [4] [7] The same year, the term appears in Trixie Smith's "My Man Rocks Me" in the lyrics "My man rocks me, with one steady roll [...] I said now, Daddy, ain’t we got fun". [8] [5]
In gay culture and BDSM, a "daddy/boy" relationship can share similarities with a dynamic of dominance and submission. [9] New York claimed in 2017 that the gay term evolved from leather subculture, which began in the 1940s. [10]
In the 1970s, the "leather daddy" archetype (which has sadomasochistic associations) was proliferated in such media as the Drummer magazine (launched in 1975); 1976 to 1979 gay pornographic films Working Man Trilogy ; and BDSM novels by Larry Townsend. [11] [10]
Braidon Schaufert has claimed that the term was further normalized through to Game Grumps' 2017 visual novel game, Dream Daddy: A Dad Dating Simulator , which centered "queer fathers in a romance game" and gained a significant online fandom. [12]
In 2000, Andrew Schopp claimed that the daddy archetype "challenge[s] dominant ideologies of masculinity by appropriating the icons of masculinity and male authority (jocks, leather, motorcycles, uniforms) and transporting them into the realm of gay male sexual experience." [13]
In 2018, Braidon Schaufert claimed that, by creating the 'daddy' term, "Queer communities have separated the specific gender performance of fatherhood from the actual act of raising children". [12]
In the context of T4T relationships (specifically, trans men dating trans men), a Daddy/boy dynamic can be part of the gender affirmation process, thereby leading to gender euphoria. In 2022, Transgender Studies Quarterly claimed that a Daddy/boy dynamic between trans people "can be read as gender labor; affective and intersubjective work that produces gender". [14] [15]
