Quickie (sexual act)

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Quickies usually do not allow much time for proper stimulation, and therefore, not much time for all removal of clothing. Deveria04.jpg
Quickies usually do not allow much time for proper stimulation, and therefore, not much time for all removal of clothing.

A quickie is sexual intercourse that a couple may engage in when the time available is minimal. The quickie may arise from a spontaneous sexual desire by the parties or be a regular or planned arrangement.

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Because of the limit on available time, foreplay would generally be skipped; women may not have enough time to lubricate naturally. [1] In a planned encounter, the partners may dress in a manner that reduces the time needed for undressing. For example, a woman may wear a wide skirt or a front closing dress and open crotch lingerie, thongs to be pushed aside or no underwear, especially pantyhose. A man may dispense with a jacket and belt. A quickie between a heterosexual couple may generally satisfy only the man's sexual desire. [2]

Quickies may solve unequal sexual desire in a relationship; however, if they become the only form of sex, with only men getting sexual satisfaction, the relationship may suffer. [2] Author and psychologist Joel Block has suggested that the quickie is a necessary part of a relationship and suggests practical ways for both partners to enjoy the experience. [3]

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References

  1. Hilda Hutcherson (2006). Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Sex You Need, Want, and Deserve. Perigee. ISBN   0-399-53286-2.
  2. 1 2 William Cutrer (2007). Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Sandra Glahn. Kregel Publications. ISBN   978-0-8254-2437-3.
  3. Joel Block (2006). Art of the Quickie: Fast Sex, Fast Orgasm, Anytime, Anywhere. Quiver. ISBN   1592332404.