Matchmaking

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Gerard van Honthorst, The Match-Maker (1625) Gerrit van Honthorst - De koppelaarster.jpg
Gerard van Honthorst, The Match-Maker (1625)

Matchmaking is the process of matching two or more people together, usually for the purpose of marriage, in which case the matchmaker is also known as a marriage broker. The word is also used in the context of sporting events such as boxing, in business, in online video games and in pairing organ donors.

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These services often rely on personality tests (but genetics has even been proposed), [1] aiming to maximize the identification of the best match.

Traditional matchmaking is a usual folk program in Russian museums. Pn-museum-2001-05-visitors.jpg
Traditional matchmaking is a usual folk program in Russian museums.

In some cultures, the role of the matchmaker was and is quite professionalised. The Ashkenazi Jewish shadchan, or the Hindu astrologer, were often thought to be essential advisors and also helped in finding right spouses as they had links and a relation of good faith with the families. In cultures where arranged marriages were the rule, the astrologer often claimed that the stars sanctified matches that both parents approved of, making it quite difficult for the possibly-hesitant children to easily object – and also making it easy for the astrologer to collect his fee.[ citation needed ] Tarot divination has also been employed by some matchmakers.[ citation needed ]

Social dance, especially in frontier North America, the contra dance and square dance, has also been employed in matchmaking, usually informally. However, when farming families were widely separated and kept all children on the farm working, marriage-age children could often only meet in church or in such mandated social events. Matchmakers, acting as formal chaperones or as self-employed "busybodies" serving less clear social purposes, would attend such events and advise families of any burgeoning romances before they went too far.[ tone? ][ citation needed ]

Matchmakers sitting on either side of the bride and groom in this Japanese wedding photo Wedding Party Photo at Meiji Shrine Tokyo.jpg
Matchmakers sitting on either side of the bride and groom in this Japanese wedding photo

The influence of such people in a culture that did not arrange marriages, and in which economic relationships (e.g. "being able to support a family", "good prospects") played a larger role in determining if a (male) suitor was acceptable, is difficult to determine. It may be fair to say only that they were able to speed up, or slow down, relationships that were already forming. In this sense they were probably not distinguishable from relatives, rivals, or others with an interest. Clergy probably played a key role in most Western cultures, as they continue to do in modern ones, especially where they are the most trusted mediators in the society. Matchmaking was certainly one of the peripheral functions of the village priest in Medieval Catholic society, as well as a duty of rabbis in traditional Jewish communities. Today, the shidduch is a system of matchmaking in which Jewish singles are introduced to one another in Orthodox Jewish communities.[ citation needed ]

In recent years there has been a resurgence of interest in traditional matchmaking. Dissatisfaction with dating apps, television shows like Million Dollar Matchmaker and Indian Matchmaking , and a pandemic that made it harder for singles to meet organically created increased interest the role of the professional matchmaker. Those who find dating systems or services useful but prefer human intelligence and personal touches can choose from a wide range of such services now available.

In Asia

In Singapore, the Social Development Unit (SDU), run by the city-state's government, offers a combination of professional counsel and dating system technology, like many commercial dating services. Thus the role of the matchmaker has become institutionalized, as a bureaucrat, and every citizen in Singapore has access to some subset of the matchmaking services that were once reserved for royalty or upper classes.[ citation needed ]

As of July 2023, there were 50 Iranian dating agencies according to Ministry of Islamic Culture and Guidance. [2]

Other uses

The concept of matchmaking is also used in the business world and is known as B2B Matchmaking, Investor Matchmaking, Business Speed Dating, or Brokerage Events. In contradiction to social networking solutions, real meetings between business people are in focus. Trade fair organisations e.g. find this concept an added value for their exhibitors because it gives them the opportunity of advanced planned meetings. Following the inspiration of dating sites, some online B2B networking platforms developed advanced business matching solutions enabling relevant business partners' identification.

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References

  1. Ok, We Have Our First DNA-Based Dating Service: GenePartner, by Michael Arrington, TechCrunch, on July 22, 2008.
  2. "معاون سازمان تبلیغات اسلامی: ۵۰ مجموعه همسان‌گزینی مجوز فعالیت گرفتند - ایرنا".