Love addiction

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Love addiction is a proposed model of pathological passion-related behavior involving the feeling of falling and being in love. A medical review of related behaviors in animals and humans concluded that current medical evidence does not have definitions or criteria on an addiction model for love addiction, but there are reported similarities to substance dependence, such as euphoria and desire in the stimuli (drug intoxication), as well as anhedonia and negative levels of mood when away from the stimuli (drug withdrawal), intrusive thoughts on it, and disregard for adverse consequences. [1] There has never been a reference to love addiction in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), a compendium of mental disorders and diagnostic criteria published by the American Psychiatric Association. [2]

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Medical research on love addiction is still ongoing today, and it has not yet been scientifically confirmed whether or not it is an addiction. [1]

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The history of the concept
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The modern history of the concept of the love addict – ignoring such precursors as Robert Burton's dictum that 'love extended is mere madness' [3] – extends to the early decades of the 20th century. Freud's study of the Wolf Man highlighted 'his liability to compulsive attacks of falling physically in love ... a compulsive falling in love that came on and passed off by sudden fits'; [4] but it was Sandor Rado who in 1928 first popularized the term "love addict" – 'a person whose needs for more love, more succor, more support grow as rapidly as the frustrated people around her try to fill up what is, in effect, a terrible and unsatisfiable inner emptiness.' [5] Even Søren Kierkegaard in Works of Love said "Spontaneous [romantic] love makes a man free and in the next moment dependent ... spontaneous love can become unhappy, can reach the point of despair." [6]

However, it was not until the 1970s and 1980s that the concept came to the popular fore. Stanton Peele opened the door, almost unwittingly, with his 1975 book Love and Addiction; but (as he later explained), while that work had been intended as 'a social commentary on how our society defines and patterns intimate relationships ... all of this social dimension has been removed, and the attention to love addiction has been channeled in the direction of regarding it as an individual, treatable psychopathology'. [7] In 1976, the 12-Step program Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) started hosting weekly meetings based on Alcoholics Anonymous. They published their Basic Text, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, in 1986 discussing characteristics of and recovery from both love addiction and sex addiction. [8] As of late 2012, S.L.A.A.'s membership had grown to an estimated 16,000 members in 43 countries. [9] In 1985, Robin Norwood's Women Who Love Too Much popularized the concept of love addiction for women. In 2004 a program just for love addicts was created--Love Addicts Anonymous. Since, variations on the dynamics of love addiction have become further popularized in the 1990s and 2000s by multiple authors.

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References

  1. 1 2 Reynaud M, Karila L, Blecha L, Benyamina A (2010). "Is love passion an addictive disorder?". Am J Drug Alcohol Abuse. 36 (5): 261–7. doi:10.3109/00952990.2010.495183. PMID   20545601. S2CID   12189769.
  2. Shaeffer, Brenda (2009). Is It Love Or Is It Addiction? The Book That Changed the Way We Think about Romance and Intimacy (3rd ed.). Center City, Minnesota: Hazelden Publishing. ISBN   978-1-59285-733-3The book has been translated into Spanish as Es Amor O Es Adicción {{cite book}}: External link in |postscript= (help)CS1 maint: postscript (link)
  3. Robert Burton, The Anatomy of Melancholy (New York 1951) p. 769
  4. Sigmund Freud, Case Studies II (PFL 9) p. 273 and p. 361
  5. Maggie Scarf, Unfinished Business: Pressure Points in the Lives of Women (Ballantine Books, 1995) Chapter 12.
  6. Quoted in Susan Peabody, Addiction to Love
  7. Quoted in Bruce E. Levine, Commonsense Rebellion (2003) p. 242
  8. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous official website
  9. "Letter to Healthcare Professional" distributed at 2012 SASH Conference.
  10. Anaïs Nin, A Spy in the House of Love (Penguin 1986) p. 36
  11. Anne T. Salvatore, Anaïs Nin's Narratives (2001) p. 67
  12. Neville Symington, Narcissism: A New Theory (2004) p. 56
  13. Quoted in T. S. Eliot, The Complete Plays and Poems (London 1985) p. 79
  14. Judith C. Stark, Feminist Interpretations of Augustine (2007) p. 246

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